An Essay on Traveling Alone – Shedding Your Fears, Empower and Evolve

Traveling alone can be scary at first. When people think of travel, their minds are often filled with images of full moon parties in the Asian tropics, backpacking through the Medieval streets of Europe or going on an adventure trek through African and South American jungles.

More often than not there are a lot of people there; friends, family, fellow travelers, and adventurers to share the experience with it. This “comradery of the road” often provides a bit of shelter from the culture shock and the anxiety of being removed from comfortable environments.


When you strip a person of their comforts, things can get a little scary. There are times when a traveler must go at it alone, and in doing so, they will walk into a world unraveled from the familiar. Take driving on the opposite side of the road for example. Terrifying! But there is beauty in this. Around every corner lies excitement, exploration, and real culture, but only if the traveler can overcome the hurdles that come with traveling alone.


The Hurdles and Rewards of Traveling Alone


Traveling alone is a completely separate experience than traveling with someone you know. Exploring new lands with a group is an experience in and of itself. The way a traveler takes in their surroundings changes when they’re with a travel partner. Go at it alone they have no option but to experience it themselves, in a manner that cannot be colored by anyone else other than the locals they are experiencing it with.


Dropping the other members of a group also means that the traveler operates on their own time and pace. No longer are they waiting for the slowest member of the group to get things rolling, or being rushed to a museum or tourist spot by a well-meaning guide because they had to keep a schedule. By going at it alone, the traveler can truly savor sights, sounds, and experiences offered by their destination. Likewise, they also have the ability to skip things that are of no interest to them simply.


The feeling of aloneness is often a source of woe to solo travelers because it forces them to face their fears, both internally and externally. Humans are, by nature, social creatures, so when the concept of a social support structure is removed from the equation, it triggers a quasi-fight or flight response. In this sense, a flight response would be to remove themselves from a particular situation (e. g. leave that area, go back to somewhere familiar, go home).


The fight response is tackling the problem head-on, enduring the pains but also enjoying the rewards of doing something correctly. For decades now, lone voyagers would seek social solace in places like dorms or hostels. Here, they would find fellow journeymen and others seeking a reprieve from the road.


The world has never been closer thanks to technology. These days, if a traveler has a stable WiFi connection they can chat, call or even carry a video conversation with friends and relatives overseas on the other side of the globe. Some purists believe that this constant connectivity is ruining the travel experience. There may be some truth to this, but for the vast majority of vagabonds, the internet represents an emergency parachute that they can use to save their trip as much as their sanity.


Security is often a topic bandied about by solo travelers, especially women who usually feel extra vulnerable in unknown parts of the world. It is an obvious and serious issue that can be another essay altogether. But the whole idea begins with respect. As a traveler, it is imperative that you treat locals and fellow travelers alike with respect as well as demand some yourself. Using one’s common sense is also high on the list, as well as keeping yourself informed of any hostile activities in the area. If the government and tourist websites say that you should avoid a city, town or area at night, do not proceed to walk down there in the dark with jewelry displayed. It’s important to travel with a backpack that has a lot of secure places to hide your personal belongings! I have put together a list of the best backpacks to use when traveling alone!


While it can be easy to get caught up in the wonders of this beautiful world, don’t forget that your home will need protecting while you are away. There are many experts that can be contacted and give you options on how to prevent squatters.


Travelers should also travel with confidence, or at least with the air of trust. Predators exist in all parts of the world, and just like in the animal kingdom they are attracted to creatures that look like and act like prey. It is not to say that a traveler should be unfriendly, but it does mean that they walk, talk and act with strength. Predators are not prone to attack prey that looks like they are more than willing to put up a fight.


The truth is that traveling alone reveals truths about a person that they may not be comfortable with it. It gives the traveler an opportunity to see the world at their speed, truly savor experiences and make a lasting connection to a part of the world. Solo travel will test a person’s will as well as their cunning, intellect and ability to overcome hardship. It may look hard at first, but it is an act that is more than worth doing. Nothing will empower a human more than traveling alone.


About Christa Thompson

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Christa Thompson is the Founder and Chief Editor of The Fairytale Traveler. She started traveling the world in 2003 when she attended a summer abroad study at the University of Cambridge in England. Since then, her wanderlust has been fierce. Her three passions in life are her son, traveling, and being creative. The Fairytale Traveler brand gives Christa the opportunity to do all of these things and to live intentionally every day. "It's never too late to believe in what you love and to pursue your dreams." -Christa Thompson

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