The Fairytale Traveler

Travel & Lifestyle Blog

Christa thompson, st augustine,

When Your Divorce is Better than Your Wedding Day

Posted on Tagged , ,

Surprise. I’m divorced. Yes, that’s correct, I’ve cannon balled into the metaphoric pool of American statistics. And I couldn’t be happier. Why? Because we weren’t happy: that’s why. And since I’m a solid believer of the idea that people control their own happiness, it seemed like the logical thing to do for both of us. I mean, after all, our matrimony was pretty much a fluke. I married the man who knocked me up after four months of dating. It would appear I am not impervious to sperm after all. Don’t get me wrong: I gave our marriage a good college try, but we were all wrong for each other. Dragging it out would have undoubtedly set a terrible example for our son. What would he think of marriage and relationships after seeing two people like passing ships in the night? I didn’t want that for him, and either did my ex. Still, it wasn’t an easy decision.

 

Just Divorced – The Eye Opener I Needed

 

We spent in total five years together. Two of those years were pretty much on the divorce train. I remember the very day I decided enough was enough. I was parked under this old oak tree, a place I would go to every day on my way home from work to avoid actually going home. I would sneak in a cheeky smoke (when I smoked) and work myself up to facing my ex-husband. It’s not that he was mean or anything, I was just so incredibly bored and miserable, I literally got anxiety just thinking of being there. I was also bearing the entire weight of the family responsibility while he worked 70+ hours a week. He just wasn’t available. Emotionally, physically, mentally, he wasn’t there.

 

As I sat under that tree, I saw a Jeep Cherokee drive by with the words “Just divorced, I got the Jeep” written in the back window with shoe polish as if it were headed to the local homecoming football game. It made me laugh, then think and that’s when I pulled the trigger on bagging the marriage, cutting my losses and moving on. And two years of marriage counseling wasn’t helping.

 

Now you might be sitting there saying, “oh that’s just so sad”. But listen here: it was the best day (apart from having my son) of my life! I drove home that day, took my ex aside and said “I want a divorce”. He said, “Okay. When do we start?” And that was that.

 

The coming weeks were interesting. We shared the house. He would stay there three nights a week; I would stay with friends. When I had the house, he would stay at my best friend’s house (who is married to his best friend). Clearly they were the ones who actually suffered from our divorce.

 

There were a few awkward times, like when I came in to grab some clothes and he was out cold in bed while our son was dismantling my master closet (as in toddler on the loose). But mostly, it went very smoothly.

 

So many people say “oh I’m so sorry to hear you went through a divorce”, like it’s cancer. My divorce was one of the best decisions of my life, for my son’s life and for my ex. I strongly feel that my son has a better idea of what’s right and wrong, and will move onto long healthy relationships, as he gets older.

 

Divorce was the beginning of a whole new chapter in my life. One which led me to become the blogger I am now, giving my son a life of travel and leading by the greatest example of all; that we DO control our own happiness, and that everyone should live a life of intention doing what they love and chasing their dreams.

 

I have no regrets feom my divorce other than the legal side of it. I wish I had paid for better advice as I am now going through a custody battle which could have been avoided had I created certain contingencies. Oddly enough, this battle is far more mentally exhausting than my divorce.

 

If you feel like it’s over, I say end it. Don’t be an empty shell of who you are. Life is short and time is not reimbursed. We weren’t meant to live for what looks right, we should live for what feels right.

 

Christa Thompson

Christa Thompson is the Founder and Chief Editor of The Fairytale Traveler. She started traveling the world in 2003 when she attended a summer abroad study at the University of Cambridge in England. Since then, her wanderlust has been fierce. Her three passions in life are her son, traveling, and being creative. The Fairytale Traveler brand gives Christa the opportunity to do all of these things and to live intentionally every day. "It's never too late to believe in what you love and to pursue your dreams." -Christa Thompson

You May Also Like

Fairytale Traveler

The Fairytale Traveler – Editor’s Note from Christa Thompson

By Christa ThompsonPosted on
Writing Skills

Teach kids to be Writers and They Can Do Anything

By Christa ThompsonPosted on
UK Driving

My First UK Driving Experience

By Christa ThompsonPosted on

191 thoughts on “When Your Divorce is Better than Your Wedding Day”

  24. Right now my favorite show is Orange is the New Black. I also like the one episode of Designated Survivor that I saw.

    Reply

  52. My favorite show is Nashville. They took it off of ABC but I think it may be resurrected on another channel. Looking forward to the new show.

    Reply

  71. I don’t know if I have a true favorite but I do love Law and Order SVU, been watching since the very beginning.

    Reply

  73. My favorite was Sex and the City…don’t really have one now so I really look forward to watching Divorce. 🙂 Thanks for sharing your story.

    amy [at] uTry [dot] it

    Reply

  84. My favorite TV show is Sons of Anarchy. Yes, I know it’s not on TV anymore. But, I own the entire series and I’m on my 3rd time of watching it! Just love it. 😀 Thanks so much for the chance to win!

    Reply
  86. Pingback: Living After Losing a Loved One
  95. Pingback: Which giveaways do you want to win? The Sunday Scoop for 10/16 through 10/24

  102. I saw the pilot for Divorce on HBOgo the other day and really liked it! Right now I am enjoying The Americans on FX.

    Reply

  110. My favorite TV show of all time is probably Northern Exposure. Loved the characters, and that it was funny, sad, and touching, all at the same time.

    Reply

  115. I still watch Jeopardy five nights a week and I like Antiques Roadshow and the Great British Baking Show.

    Reply

  148. I don’t watch TV. Don’t even own a TV and don’t watch on the computer. Have a full life without it.
    Thanks for the contest.

    slehan at juno dot com

    Reply

  177. I have so many, I enjoy BBC shows Sherlock and Doctor Who. I am a fan of the walking dead, game of thrones, blacklist, blindspot, ncis shows, several syfy shows, lucifier

    tbarrettno1 at gmail dot com

    Reply

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Scroll to top