I am Centered and Balanced – The Lie I Tell Myself

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I’m a single mom. I’m centered and well-balanced. I homeschool my kid, I have it all figured out. I’m a full-time blogger, I’m living the dream, and life is good. These are the lies I tell myself. I came to this realization after screening a new T.V. series called, Good Behavior on TNT. Truth be told, I’m a hot mess just like you. Or maybe you’re one of those super perfect moms who measure each and every carb you eat, fill every time slot with something amazing for your kid and never EVER leave the house without makeup. If you are, I am sorry. I just can’t relate.

My Every Day Crazy Life

Every day I wake up and I know three things: I have to make sure my son doesn’t set anything on fire, I didn’t lose 40 pounds in my sleep, and I will try to be better than I was the day before. Everything else is fair game. I live an unconventional life. Nothing in my life is well-balanced. Nothing is centered. No matter how hard I try, it’s impossible to keep things on an even keel. Imagine this: living a double life, which toggles between a domesticated mother who home schools her son, to international travel, lifestyle and film blogger. Just when I feel like things are starting to iron out and that balance is happening I’m on another plane to this event or that destination. In all honesty, in all my success, I feel defeated.

When I don’t have time to work out, clean the house or even put together a Lego set with my kid, I feel defeated. Is there just not enough of me to go around?

Balance is Not the Grind

I’d like to circle back and clarify that there is a difference between balance and routine. While the mom who’s on a strict schedule, living a life of time slots and routine may feel balanced, that is not balance. Balance is living equal parts of the facets in life that make you happy and healthy. For me, these things are being a good mom, staying healthy, being fit, growing my brand, traveling, crafting, being a good girlfriend and friend. Let’s recall, I told you I was living this lie. I tell myself I’m centered and balanced, but in truth, I feel anything but.

So What’s Making Me so Off-Centered?

Over the last three years, I’ve gained 40 pounds from traveling the world, dining at the finest restaurants and missing out on any real-time in the gym. Jet lag and poor diet consume my energy leaving me to live in a vicious cycle of rushing to get things done before a trip, being on a trip and then coming home only to be too tired to hit the gym. In my health and fitness facet, I am failing. Inversely (when I’m home for more than seven days at a time) I eat very healthy and work out. But it’s not enough. Over the last three years, I haven’t spent nearly enough daily quality time with my son. Running an international brand has consumed my time and mental bandwidth. This is perhaps the most upsetting aspect of my poor balancing skills. Over the last three years, I have ignored my family, my friends and many of my blogging pals again due to lack of time and mental bandwidth. My relationships are falling apart miserably. Over the last three years I have done less, and less art projects at home, something I love as much as travel itself. Yet, over the last three years I’ve traveled internationally sixteen times, domestic twenty-seven, been to multiple red carpets events and even on set for major films. So what did I trade off? A life of balance for a life of dreams? Did I make the right choice and can I really have it all?

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I Want to be Centered and Balanced

I want more than anything to be that mom who sits down with her son every day to play board games and hear all his in-depth Minecraft plots. I want to go to the gym five days a week, eat super clean, juice every day, and work out when I’m traveling. I want to have the time to be creative and make new projects, explore my new home in Atlanta, talk on the phone with my friends and family and grow a deeper relationship with my partner. I want to continue to grow my brand, seize opportunities and spark creative ideas with my colleagues.

Finding the Balance

The question is how do I do it all? How do I truly pull off centered and balanced? Or is this like a mythical island we are all swimming to while slowly drowning in a sea of life’s curveballs? After screening Good Behavior on TNT, I couldn’t help but think, “If this girl can get it together, I certainly can.” Even though being a criminal isn’t quite the same as being overwhelmed, it all boils down to the same thing, personal responsibility.

The first step for me was to realize I’ve been telling myself a lie, next is setting myself boundaries like; time limits and personal goals. Moreover, it’s holding myself accountable for slacking. I’ll be setting alarms, prepping meals, staying focused at my desk and making the gym a priority. I’ll be setting date nights with my guy, time slots with my kid and scheduling time to catch up with my friends. I feel like being centered, finding balance and of course, financial stability is the pinnacle of success. And while I do a lot of epic things and others look to me as being successful, I can honestly say I am still forging this path.  Maybe I’ll figure it out, maybe I won’t, but I will be on my best behavior.

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About Christa Thompson

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Christa Thompson is the Founder and Senior Editor of The Fairytale Traveler. Christa has been traveling the world since 2003 when she attended a summer abroad study at the University of Cambridge in England. Since then, her wanderlust has been fierce. Her three passions in life are her son, traveling, and being creative. The Fairytale Traveler brand gives Christa the opportunity to do all of these things and to live intentionally every day.

“It’s never too late to believe in what you love and to pursue your dreams.” -Christa Thompson

117 Comments on this post

  1. Now this appears (looks) to be a very edgy & cool 1 Christa I’m definitely gonna check it out ✅thanks

    Michael D Thomas II / Reply
  2. I find balance through meditation and yoga.

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  4. I find balance in my life by taking time for myself, by doing the things I love every day and taking time to relax and have me time.

    Julie Wood / Reply
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  6. I find balance in my life by using all my PTO at work, exercising every day for stress relief and setting aside time to spend with family and friends as well as “me” time.

    Natalie / Reply
  7. I find balance in my life by only scheduling a few events or appointments each week, to make sure I have enough time with my kids and to get stuff done around the house.

    Kelly D / Reply
  8. I find balance by having a daily schedule and taking time to myself

    Elena / Reply
  9. I find balance in my life by being organized and praying to the Lord.

    heather / Reply
  10. I find balance in my life by making sure I cover all my bases in life.

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    Steve Weber / Reply
  11. I find my balance by yoga. It makes me feel so much better!

    tat2gurlzrock / Reply
  12. I find balance by taking some “me” time to do what I love daily.
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    Jessie C. / Reply
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  14. I find balance through Pilates and Yoga.

    mita / Reply
  15. I too, am a single mom, who has been traveling the world with her son (for 8 years). The only thing that keeps me in balance is my dedication to daily laughter with my son. Seriously, laughter. Lots of laughter. The lightness of life, keeps us in balance.

    Lainie Liberti / Reply
  16. I love that you’re keeping it real, because finding balance is not easy! I tend to put myself at the end of the balance list, but I do try to carve out 30-60 minutes a day while my daughter is at school for a bath or a walk or even a little Netflix so that I can be recharged by the time she gets home.

    Liza / Reply
  17. Great post all around, Christa. The fact you can write such a personal, well-thought out and beautifully written post about yourself shows that you are much more “with it” than you think. Keep doing what you’re doing. Don’t be so hard on yourself. And you look amazing too so don’t worry about all that traveling cutting into your gym time.

    Andrew @ Mommys_Busy / Reply
  18. Boy, I can relate – well, not about the red carpet stuff – but weight, not working well on relationships and living a lie. Still. It’s life and real and I live in gratitude. Keep going. Your kid will work it out – mine did and he’s flourishing at USC film school! (I made him promise to take me to the Academy Awards, so that red carpet may happen yet!)

    Elaine J Masters / Reply
  19. If I tried to tell anyone that I’ve found the way to keep any type of balance in my life, I’d be lying. I have not. Not yet. I’m sixty years old, hopefully there’s still time for discovery. I’m not dead yet. Excellent words, Christa. Thank you for sharing.

    Laura Tveras / Reply
  20. Zero balance here. I try. That’s the best I can do. 🙂

    Jana Seitzer / Reply
  21. I find Balance in my life by being just a tiny bit selfish. That means a grocery trip by myself while kids stay at home. But oh, how much better and more able to take anything my way I feel after

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  23. Girl, I hear you. It is a struggle that never seems to get easier. I get really upset if blogging takes me away from my kids, because that’s why I started my blog in the first place; to have a freedom lifestyle & more time with my babies.

    Amanda / Reply
  24. I find balance by saying no even when it means passing up on something good if it doesn’t fit my goals and what is necessary. Saying no to even good things and good causes I’d ok if necessary. It’s hard to say no though!

    Cindy Orley / Reply
  25. I find balance by having a daily schedule and taking time to myself

    Susan Smith / Reply
  26. I find balance by eating a minimum # of veggies and fruits a day, exercising at least 3 times a week, and spending time with people I love.

    Madeline / Reply
  27. I just try to focus on what is lasting and what is important, and not focus on problems I can’t solve.

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    Erika / Reply
  28. I try to find time for “me” in my life. I’ve only really started this now in my late 30s and am often baffled by how I didn’t realize the importance of just being by myself sooner.

    busyworkingmama / Reply
  29. By having a planner and helpful family members

    latanya t / Reply
  30. I think to keep balance that it is important to have your priorities in order. Things that won’t matter a 100 years from now should not take top priority today. My husband and my kids matter the most.

    Rebecca / Reply
  31. I find my balance by taking time out for me and relaxing

    Lisa Brown / Reply
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  33. A little work alittle me time and a lot of family time

    katherine / Reply
  34. I find my balance by only taking on the things I have time for at one time – I CAN say no to things!

    Kerry Bishop / Reply
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  36. definitely trying to tackle challenges but doing things that make me happy

    Julie / Reply
  37. I find balance by sticking to a schedule and by taking some time for myself each day whether it is reading a book or going for a walk.

    Elle / Reply
  38. I find balance by walking and listening to music.

    Cheryl (@arress83) / Reply
  39. I balance my life by making time for myself and knowing how to say no to other people.

    Angela Hendricks / Reply
  40. Support and love of family is my balance

    Faith J. / Reply
  41. I find my balance by taking time off every once in a while. to relax and unwind.

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    Amy Tong / Reply
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  43. making time to just relax and gather my thoughts

    Linda / Reply
  44. Don’t worry.

    maria cantu / Reply
  45. I find balance by not sweating the small stuff in life.

    Ellie Wright / Reply
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  47. I find balance by not overscheduling my life.

    Rebecca Graham / Reply
  48. I find balance in not sweating the small stuff. Family, friends and love. that’s all that matters.

    Elizabeth / Reply
  49. By taking time for myself, long walks in the morning are great!

    Linda / Reply
  50. I find balance in my life by setting aside time to read as well as time to create art.

    Susan P. / Reply
  51. I try to plan things out so I don’t do too much of any one thing lol I’m not very good at balance, but I do try 🙂

    Anastasia / Reply
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  53. i find balance in my life by keeping to a regular schedule and not adding more to it than i should

    Debbie B / Reply
  54. i find balance by being organised and keep a schedule.

    Francine Anchondo / Reply
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  56. I work and do yoga when i have time

    amanda sakovitz / Reply
  57. I don’t have much balance in my life. I work and then go home. I always feel too tired to do anything else.

    Betty C / Reply
  58. I wish I could find some balance in my life! I do my best, though, taking care of myself and my family. And I guess knowing that I’m doing the best I can helps me keep some semblance of balance.

    Anne / Reply
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  60. I find balance by going easy on myself for things that don’t really matter all that much. I keep my priorities to be my people, not my things.

    Denise L / Reply
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  62. I find balance in my life by being sure that I spend a lot of time in nature and with my partner and I find at least 3 things a day that make me smile. Take joy in the little things because life doesn’t give you that many big things and you will miss out on all the joy waiting for big things.

    angie lilly / Reply
  63. yoga and listening to soothing music!

    Donna / Reply
  64. I find balance through having some quiet time to myself throughout the week, to help me collect my thoughts about what I’m doing in life.
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    Tarissa / Reply
  65. i try to make time for myself to at least get to the gym

    sandra / Reply
  66. I make sure to have time to exercise.

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  68. I struggle with balance, but I’m learning to be grateful for what I did get to check off each day’s to-do list, rather than focus on what didn’t get done.

    Annette / Reply
  69. I find balance by doing the things I love: swimming, singing and volunteering.
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  70. I find my balance in life by trying to be better at managing time, so my day self manages itself.

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  74. I try to rest so I can focus

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  77. I try to find my balance by staying positive and walking.

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  78. I have to take care of me before i can take care of everyone else

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  79. I try to be very grateful for the things I have. Meditation also keeps you focused and open hearted.

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